Nouri, Alexandra (2011-08-06). So. You’re in Love With a Narcissist. (Set Me Free Series)
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is my abusive (now ex-)boyfriend (who regularly beat me, took all my money, regularly called me stupid, offended everything I loved and managed to completely isolate me) and made me feel like shit all the time) going completely ballistic when I wanted to break up with him, and forcing me to take him back and I (according to him) HAD to take him back… but when he wanted to break up with me it was 100% final and when I wanted him to take me back (because I became emotionally dependent and wasn’t my normal self), none of my begging and pleading would do anything about it.
Male privilege is also that same ex-boyfriend abusing my emotional dependence (because in the relationship I became completely isolated and I was still trying to re-build a new social network) to (ab)use me for sex only to get called a dumb and hopeless slut and a creepy stalker (while HE was the one chasing me whenever he saw me in that period) afterwards.
Male privilege is also the therapist who never believed me and regularly said that I could have prevented this situation and never took any of my complaints seriously and still dealing with emotional issues and post traumatic stress symptoms.
Male privilege is also my ex never had to return any money (which is around 25.000 euro) he took from me, the police who never took this seriously when I wanted to report the physical abuse (because there were no visible bruises) both causing him to be still free, me not taken seriously by anyone in this town (due to a lot of gossip and him going around claiming I made everything up), completely broke and in financial trouble and 3-4 years afterwards still emotionally/mentally suffering from all of this.
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is my abusive (now ex-)boyfriend (who regularly beat me, took all my money, regularly called me stupid, offended everything I loved and managed to completely isolate me) and made me feel like shit all the time) going completely ballistic when I wanted to break up with him, and forcing me to take him back and I (according to him) HAD to take him back… but when he wanted to break up with me it was 100% final and when I wanted him to take me back (because I became emotionally dependent and wasn’t my normal self), none of my begging and pleading would do anything about it.
Male privilege is also that same ex-boyfriend abusing my emotional dependence (because in the relationship I became completely isolated and I was still trying to re-build a new social network) to (ab)use me for sex only to get called a dumb and hopeless slut and a creepy stalker (while HE was the one chasing me whenever he saw me in that period) afterwards.
Male privilege is also the therapist who never believed me and regularly said that I could have prevented this situation and never took any of my complaints seriously and still dealing with emotional issues and post traumatic stress symptoms.
Male privilege is also my ex never had to return any money (which is around 25.000 euro) he took from me, the police who never took this seriously when I wanted to report the physical abuse (because there were no visible bruises) both causing him to be still free, me not taken seriously by anyone in this town (due to a lot of gossip and him going around claiming I made everything up), completely broke and in financial trouble and 3-4 years afterwards still emotionally/mentally suffering from all of this.
Just saw Chris Brown winning a VMA. I am disgusted beyond every recognition that someone who beated the crap out of his girlfriend still gets to be celebrated, win awards and what not, without even spending one second in jail for what he has done. This is another example of how many males easily can get away with abuse when they have a certain amount of money/fame, a good reputation etc
Frankly, I think the biggest problem with identifying and bringing to justice the predators, rapists, abusers and all other kind of douches that use someone for sex, abuse, rape etc., is that most of the people like to believe they’re always the scary unknown person… In their minds it’s never a member of our family, a friend, an acquaintance, a partner, your spouse, that nice and friendly person we know, our friendly boss.. or heck any other kind of person we somehow (are supposed to) cherish and trust.
What do you think?
This video has footage the porn industry doesn’t want you to see. Women are abused, screaming, crying, raped and in pain on the porn set (a California workplace). No woman should have to go to work only to return home beaten and traumatized.