stirringsagacity:
sapphrikah:
angryasiangirlsunited:
theworstthingsforsale:
Let me stun you by telling you that the author of this already visibly-horrifying book has included a special section on how to cheat a Thai prostitute out of her payment. He doesn’t just want to go to Thailand and pay for sex. He wants to steal sex from the prostitutes.
It’s like a turd shit out a tiny, horrible, even stinkier turd, and then that turd got a boner, and then wrote a book.
The racist thief should fall into the pit of hell a thousand times.
How the fuck did this get published? Oh, right, fucking patriarchy.
It’s not the patriarchy that published this, it’s something called freedom of speech. Yes, the book is completely awful of course but some people think the same thing about a lot of books that tumblr loves i.e. Harry Potter. I mean if we were to ban this book what stops people from making a similar cases for other books with explict sex acts in them because they could encourage people from doing the things in said books adn corrupting the youths. However if someone was to encourage Amazon from not selling this book that is entirely different and he could sell the an ebook and pdf through his own website or other service. While I think the author and this book are awful and utter trash, he still has the right to publish this book.
Damn right, leave it up to a man to mansplain why promoting stealing from people who are exploited and forced into prostitution can be justified in the name of “freedom of speech”.
How much of a moron do you have to be to think that this falls under “freedom of speech”? Seriously, the freedom of speech laws in most countries has it’s exceptions when it comes to things like racism, incitement to criminal activities, obscenity and this book has all three of them. And therefore I’m actually suprised that this is even legal.
Freedom of speech doesn’t mean you get to say/write whatever you want, are allowed to be a racist fetishist and encourage people to rip off other people who are exploited/forced into prostitution in third world countries like Thailand.
Do you have any idea how poor these people are, how afraid they are their family members will die of starvation if they fail to bring home enough money, how afraid these females are of getting beaten? Don’t you think their lives aren’t already worse enough as it is WITHOUT someone trying to steal their “services” and rip them off?!
Go fuck yourself with a cactus and rot in the deepest pits of hell, you disgusting, worthless piece of shit. You really are no better than the disgusting, horrible predator who wrote this horrifying piece of crap.
Now excuse me while I go search for faith in humanity, because I lost mine after reading this.
the1janitor:
DUDES, STOP BEING CREEPS. SERIOUSLY.
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is my abusive (now ex-)boyfriend (who regularly beat me, took all my money, regularly called me stupid, offended everything I loved and managed to completely isolate me) and made me feel like shit all the time) going completely ballistic when I wanted to break up with him, and forcing me to take him back and I (according to him) HAD to take him back… but when he wanted to break up with me it was 100% final and when I wanted him to take me back (because I became emotionally dependent and wasn’t my normal self), none of my begging and pleading would do anything about it.
Male privilege is also that same ex-boyfriend abusing my emotional dependence (because in the relationship I became completely isolated and I was still trying to re-build a new social network) to (ab)use me for sex only to get called a dumb and hopeless slut and a creepy stalker (while HE was the one chasing me whenever he saw me in that period) afterwards.
Male privilege is also the therapist who never believed me and regularly said that I could have prevented this situation and never took any of my complaints seriously and still dealing with emotional issues and post traumatic stress symptoms.
Male privilege is also my ex never had to return any money (which is around 25.000 euro) he took from me, the police who never took this seriously when I wanted to report the physical abuse (because there were no visible bruises) both causing him to be still free, me not taken seriously by anyone in this town (due to a lot of gossip and him going around claiming I made everything up), completely broke and in financial trouble and 3-4 years afterwards still emotionally/mentally suffering from all of this.
aboutmaleprivilege:
Male privilege is my abusive (now ex-)boyfriend (who regularly beat me, took all my money, regularly called me stupid, offended everything I loved and managed to completely isolate me) and made me feel like shit all the time) going completely ballistic when I wanted to break up with him, and forcing me to take him back and I (according to him) HAD to take him back… but when he wanted to break up with me it was 100% final and when I wanted him to take me back (because I became emotionally dependent and wasn’t my normal self), none of my begging and pleading would do anything about it.
Male privilege is also that same ex-boyfriend abusing my emotional dependence (because in the relationship I became completely isolated and I was still trying to re-build a new social network) to (ab)use me for sex only to get called a dumb and hopeless slut and a creepy stalker (while HE was the one chasing me whenever he saw me in that period) afterwards.
Male privilege is also the therapist who never believed me and regularly said that I could have prevented this situation and never took any of my complaints seriously and still dealing with emotional issues and post traumatic stress symptoms.
Male privilege is also my ex never had to return any money (which is around 25.000 euro) he took from me, the police who never took this seriously when I wanted to report the physical abuse (because there were no visible bruises) both causing him to be still free, me not taken seriously by anyone in this town (due to a lot of gossip and him going around claiming I made everything up), completely broke and in financial trouble and 3-4 years afterwards still emotionally/mentally suffering from all of this.
Frankly, I think the biggest problem with identifying and bringing to justice the predators, rapists, abusers and all other kind of douches that use someone for sex, abuse, rape etc., is that most of the people like to believe they’re always the scary unknown person… In their minds it’s never a member of our family, a friend, an acquaintance, a partner, your spouse, that nice and friendly person we know, our friendly boss.. or heck any other kind of person we somehow (are supposed to) cherish and trust.
What do you think?
Today the FBI updated it’s circa 1920 definition of rape. Until today, rape was still defined as “The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will.” It was changed to one that makes no reference to gender and that will include male, mentally impaired and non-consensual victims. Even though this change is already reflected in the laws of many states, there will undoubtedly be in increase in the number of rapes recorded in the nation.
As it is, according to December’s CDC study and theDepartment of Justice, 20 percent of all women, 1 in 5 report experiencing rape or an attempted rape. That number is 1 in 71 for men. The Department of Justice estimates that 60 percent of rapes go unreported. Rape is in our air.
On any given day you can, if you chose, participate in an entertaining pop culture rape happening. Last week started with Salon’s Glenn Greenwalk making jokes about President Obama raping nunsand in December, #ItAintRapeIf, a fun Twitter hash tag was trending. You can find popular TV shows and movies and lists of music with rapey lyrics to hyper-real, 3-D video games like RapeLay(which went viral last year), in which players help the hero rape a mother and her two daughters. Facebook still has its controversial rape pages. Rape talk, as in “that was just like being raped,” long indulged in by right-wing shock jocks is now regular slang. Not quite convinced? How about the “Who Would You Rape?” University of Vermont fraternity survey? And, of course, someone will fill a book with the shame of Penn State.
These examples are rape culture manifest: sexual violence — overwhelmingly against girls and women — tolerated, excused, ignored and normalized through attitudes, norms, practices and media. Childhood victims of abuse, boys included, are victims of rape culture, too.
As significant as the FBI decision is, it will not dismantle this culture. Instead, with an increase in the number of rapes and a broadening of the possible victims and perpetrators, there will probably be a net increase in rape myth conversations and media coverage. We ignore, debate, glamorize and debunk real rape instead of challenging the culture that makes it endemic. Consider the impact of NOT doing the following:
- Exaggerating the incidence of false rape claims. A 2002 survey of male and female college students, surveyed revealed that they believed a woman lies in 50 percent of reported rape cases. The FBI estimates that 1-2 percent of claims are actually fake. A 2009 Slate article, examining competing quantifying claims about false accusations, concluded that the best maximum estimate for false claims, based on a survey of multiple large-scale investigations around the world, was between 8 percent and 10 percent. Yet, it’s a common refrain and mainstream media delights in sensationalizing false accusation stories. We eat them up with seeming relief. There are far more women being raped (and even more not reporting being raped) than there are lying about it.
- Portraying rape, in speech and media and news, primarily as forcible and heterosexual. Changing the FBI definition won’t change this anytime soon. Boys in particular pay the price for this myth. December’s CDC study revealed that boys are twice as likely to be raped as children - 28 percent of male rape victims reported being raped between the ages of 6-10, after which the incidence of assaults drops off, versus 12 percent of girls, for whom the incidence peaks in their teens through twenties (but virtually never ends.) According to Advocates for Youth: “Male victimization is particularly hard to estimate due to beliefs that only girls can be abused; that sex between older women and boys is desirable; that male victimization of boys indicates lack of masculinity and/or acquiescence by the child.” Sexism, misogyny, gender stereotypes and, yes, rape culture are to blame for that.
- Talking about women raping men as though there is an equivalence. and not a larger culture of violence against women that rape is a part of. Saying that sexual and domestic violence is used to control girls and women disproportionately does not mean that boys’ and men’s experiences of assault and rape are in any way less relevant or horrific. In statistical terms, however, right now, while data on female sexual assault is hard to gather and verify, it’s exactly like pointing out that some men get breast cancer every time the subject of women’s breast cancer fatalities comes up. Raising the spectre of women raping and implying equivalence is an absurd misrepresentation. According to December’s CDC report, in the US, between 1 percent and 2 percent of men have been raped or experienced an attempted rape, compared to 20 percent of women.
That 1-2 percenet is a total — not just those where there may be female perpetrators.
- Teaching girls, and not boys, rape prevention tips. Rape prevention is important and every girl and woman, whether she realizes it or not, has her own battery of techniques to avoid assault. However, imagine, as Canyourelate.org recently did to dramatically illustrate just this point, if rape prevention tips were instead, among others: “Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks” or “When you see a woman asleep, don’t rape her.” But, what if boys were taught to intervene? To not make jokes and call each other homophobic names? No amount of lists, advice and checklists will stop rape until boys and men learn to empathize, step in to inhibit aggressive friends and help their female friends and relatives when there is ambiguity or potential harm.
- Blaming and slut-shaming victims. “She asked for it.” “She was drunk.” “Did you see what she was wearing?” The most extreme illustration is last year’s repeated gang raping of an 11-year old girl in Texas. The New York Times highly criticized reporting about the rape(s) quoted members of the community as saying of the girl, “She dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s.” For some reason this was a consideration when between 5-18 boys and men, some of whom circulated phone videos, repeatedly kidnapped and raped her. Obviously girls and women have a responsibility to be careful and safe, but boys and men have to know that the way a woman dresses or her use of alchohol does not entitle them to rape her. Girls will dress in ways that invite the “wrong attention.” They will be sexually aggressive. They will drink. Just like boys. We have to be clear about saying that consent (and the ability to give consent) are necessary before sex. This is why the SlutWalk movement is so important.
- Not loudly and clearly condemning unrepentant abusers and rapists. In fact, we continue to protect, reward and glorify perpetrators of violence against women financially when they are celebrities, athletes, entertainers and public figures. This adulation of popular and entertaining abusers supports environments of structural violence. How many people spend money and time seeing Mel Gibson, listening to Chris Brown, watchingRoman Polanski films, protesting Joe Paterno’s firing. When it happens do you say to your kids “Where was that girl’s mother?” or “She put herself in that situation,” instead of saying “I will not pay to download his music because he’s an unrepentant abuser,” or “I’m sure that movie is good, but he drugged and raped a 13 year old girl and then fled the country.” Teaching moments are just as effective when you don’t say anything.
- Saying “I don’t rape and I don’t know any rapists.” I don’t think men should feel gender guilt for the predatory behavior of repeat rapists. But, I also think that moving conversations about rape to defensive, personal and anecdotal levels is destructive, misleading and counterproductive. As Hugo Schwyzer, professor of History and Gender at Pasadena College recently pointed out (to some controversy) in a recent article, men should be angry, not at feminists and people who point out rape facts, but at a rape culture’s portraying them as animals, unable to control their violent, aggressive sexuality.
And, even though I don’t think men are guilty by gender, I do think that what is usually cast as a “women’s issue” is a “men’s problem.” Given the statistics about rape, and barring any transformative planetary event, only Men Can Stop Rape. That is actually is the name of a movement whose potential influence can’t be overestimated. Their approach, which largely focuses on college age men, is ingrained with empathy and employs critical thinking and awareness to motivate boys and men to use their strength for good. Their mission is to mobilize men to create cultures free from violence, especially men’s violence against women. They teach boys and men how to positively change their understanding of masculinity, sex and relationships to end gender-based violence. I only wish they could start their programs, in age appropriate ways, in pre-school. Cross-gender empathy, a significant component of men understanding how the threat and reality of rape affects women’s lives, is not a characteristic we encourage in little boys.
Many rapists operate unchallenged. And they do because we make them comfortable doing it by misrepresenting, ignoring, debating and trivializing rape. There are those of us who believe that there can be a world where rape is not a daily fact of life. I’m one of them.
Rape Myth #8: A rape trial is always a traumatic experience for a victim.
Rape Myth #6: After you have been sexually assaulted, you can wait to get a rape kit done.
Rape Myth #5: Rape victims always have major injuries.
Rape Myth #4: A rape victim will be prosecuted if drugs are found in their system.
Rape Myth #3: “Attractive Men Don’t Rape”
Rape Myth #2: Most Sexual Assaults Are “Stranger Rapes”
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Alive for about 26 years already, female, Dutch, student, catlady, dreamer, child at heart, nerd, atheist, speaks 4 languages (Dutch, English, German and Latin) and is currently learning Japanese and Mandarin.
Interested in different cultures, animal rights, history, nature, philosophy, languages and sociology.
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